Have you ever found yourself putting up with behaviour that you really shouldn’t have put up with? You know the people I mean. I call them ‘mood hoovers’ – because they suck up all the positive energy in a room and spit out negativity dust.
It’s really damaging isn’t it? Either the situation gradually gets worse until you reach a point when it feels as if it has gone too far for you to be able to change it, or perhaps you ended up snapping at or screaming at that person and then YOU end up looking like the bad guy.
Don’t you just wish for a Big Trap Door, that you could open up and just nudge someone into? It’s why ‘Room 101’ got instant popularity on the Graham Norton Show.
However, maybe the reason why we are putting up with the bad behaviour is because we never made it clear in the first place what the expectations are. Often it goes back further than that. Many times, the culture of a company is not given the top priority it should have when hiring staff. Most people hire off a job spec, but the reason most people leave or get sacked from companies is NOT because they cannot do the job. As my good friend and recruitment coach Carole Fossey will confirm, most people who leave companies CAN do the job, they just don’t fit in.
And that’s YOUR fault.
If you haven’t identified and communicated the culture of your team / company – right from before day 1, and continued to communicate what is and isn’t acceptable, then perhaps it is time you started!
You also need to be aware of the impact YOU are having and be a big enough person to take constructive feedback that maybe it is YOU that is the “mood hoover.”
If you think you have someone on your team like this and you want some new ideas about how to deal with them then click here for free information on How to Get Your Teams To Do Anything You Want – And Still Have a Smile on Their Face.
PS – If you, like most people, have a fear of public speaking and know you need to get better at speaking up for your business – join me on March 18th for my Speak Up event where you will learn to Present With Power and Inspire Your Audience – details are here.
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