What to do when you feel like you are in over your head in your new role?
What to do when you feel like you are in over your head in your new role?
57 days in, and you are not feeling this role.
But you landed the most amazing job, did a great interview, moved into the nicest office you've ever had.
You should be laughing, you should be happy, you should be excited, and you should be rocking it.
You should be taking your partner out for dinner, celebrating your success.
But you're not.
Maybe you feel like you're in over your head.
You've bitten off more than you can chew.
The team aren't as easy to work with as you thought.
The leadership team are a little frosty, to say the least.
And you feel like a fish out of water.
Maybe they are not listening to your ideas, and they close ranks in meetings on you.
Perhaps you feel like you've made a mistake, and you shouldn't have taken the job, or that you're not good enough to take this on.
You thought you knew enough. You had the experience. But something’s just not working.
Maybe it’s got to the point that you are not sleeping, and you’re snapping at the kids.
Maybe you should just leave and find something else.
Because you are not sure what went wrong, and you don’t know how to get out of it.
But if you can step back for a moment, and analyse what’s happening, you will see that this has nothing to do with your capabilities technically.
You just haven’t found your place yet.
And you haven’t built the relationships you need to be heard and respected.
This isn’t about how good you are (and by the way, you are good enough).
It’s about belonging, being accepted, and being seen as part of the team.
It’s about being trusted.
It’s about being seen as relevant, interesting and valuable to those around you.
And when you are in a new role, that takes a bit of work, some time and a lot of listening.
It means that you can’t go in with all guns blazing (or all ideas flying).
You can’t expect that you have earned their respect.
You can’t assume that they will want to listen to you, yet.
So, you need to build it.
You need to listen!
Meet them where they are and create trust.
And, if you want to be successful as quickly as possible, you have to go slow, to go far.
And that can be hard, and it can feel lonely, and demoralising.
So, you need a plan.
You need support.
You need back up from someone you can trust?
And that’s what a coach does.
So, if you are having a hard time. Ask yourself “who’s got my back”?
And find the support you need to take that step back and work on what’s missing to make things better.
And if you want to talk that through, then I’m a good listener. 😉
Book in a strategy call and we can help you fix it:
Let's speak soon.
Julie.
Julie "Chief Impact Engineer" Hutchison
Email: [email protected]
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